Author: milspouse2018

I commented on a post from Facebook yesterday where a female mentioned that her husband told her that he no longer wanted to be married and that he only married her for the benefits. There were a ton of comments of people offering her suggestions on what to do, most of them were to divorce him and not look back. My first thought was, what is going on that her husband would do and say those to her. Is there an underlying issue that we are not aware of.

I replied to the post and simple suggested that she contact her husband 1st SSgt and see what he suggests. I got so much back lash from suggesting that. My thoughts were, what if this is a cry for help. What if him leaving his wife is a way to get away from everything. What if he has a mental issue that needs addressed. I feel like him talking to his shirt could possibly bring out the issues that they are facing. Dont get me wrong, he could just want a divorce because he’s a jerk but I feel like a there may be some issues there. It could be that they as a couple need some counseling. The 1st shirt could point them in the right direction of where to go next.

My point is, don’t be so rash to run and get an attorney and just file paperwork and BAM its over. Try to work it out. You might be surprised with the outcome!!!

If you or someone you know needs help with Suicidal Thoughts or actions get help!!! The resources are out there.

So, 3 years ago, I was “diagnosed” with a Gluten intolerance…I put “” because most doctors never actually diagnose anyone with a gluten intolerance, they just have you do the elimination diet until you find what doesn’t or does make you sick. Well, after researching my symptoms and reading a millions blogs on food allergies, I decided to cut anything containing gluten out of my diet to see if I would feel better. Lo and behold, After a week of not eating gluten I finally started feeling better.

My symptoms included; Stomach aches, gas type pains, brain fog, migraines that wouldn’t go away, fatigue, rashes and diarrhea.

My doctor for the longest time thought I had IBS and prescribes IBS medicine to help…which didn’t work. I mentioned possibly having a gluten intolerance to him, which he quickly shot down and said it was ridiculous to even think that because of how fast I started having symptoms. So, I trusted the doctor and went about my normal eating habits, still in pain and still confused. It took MONTHS for me to listen to my inner self and take matters into my own hands. After reading all the blog I mentioned and doing all the research I finally found relief.

I quit eating regular breads, I started getting my food items with no buns or breads, I quick eating wheat pasta, I no longer consumed regular soy sauce, I quick eating barley and rye and gave up cakes and cookies. It was the hardest transition of my life. I ate salads and plain chicken for weeks before I got adjusted to all the new Gluten free items I had to buy and prepare. Now, its 3 years later and Ive adjusted quite well, I can still eating pasta (corn or rice), I buy Gluten free breads, I can still have cakes and cookies (gluten free) and Ive found over the years what items containing wheat I can eat. Its been rough and Ive had the worst food cravings since becoming pregnant that I couldn’t eat because of the pain it would cause me.

Finally after 3 long years and 7.5 months of being pregnant, I have decided to TRY to reintroduce gluten containing items back into my system. I started by consuming cake icing off of store bought glutenis cakes and making sure there were a some crumbs stuck to the icing (weird I know) and from there I would take small bites of items with breading like chicken wings and tenders. I took my first real step yesterday by eating some springs rolls and an ice cream sandwich. So far, no real issues. I had a little discomfort (gas belly pains) but nothing near as bad a it was 3 years ago. Today I tried a fried chicken wrap and IT WAS AMAZING. After not having fried chicken in 3 years it was like heaven in my mouth. So today will be day 2 of reintroducing gluten into my system to see the progress ive made in 3 years.

Research says that it can takes month to even years to heal your gut from gluten exposure. Ive given it 3 years so im curious to see if my body will except gluten again. If im lucky, my body will only give me trouble for a few days then go back to normal digestion. Fingers crossed.

So, I saw a post on Facebook today arguing whether or not circumcisions and ear piercing for babies are considered a form of mutilation.

Here is my opinion; The decisions of whether or not to circumcises your male baby or pierce your daughters ears is something that should be left entirely up to the parent. If I were having a little boy I would choose to circumcises him for many reason, one being for hygiene purposes. As for the fact that im having a little girl, when I feel she is old enough (probably around 3 months old) I will choose to pierce her ears. When she gets older she can choose to take the earrings out, but until then she will have them pierced.

For boys, its not as simple as saying that they dont want to be circumcised anymore, but the decisions the parents makes when the child is a baby is all for the good of the child or for religious purposes. Being circumcised does not make or break a male or make him less of a man when he get older.

For some, parents should be relieved that we have modern technology and medicine for when little boys are circumcised. I come from a Jewish background where little boys have their circumcisions done at home or church by a priest, not a doctor. Oh and did I mention that they don’t use any form of anesthesia for the process…yeah…So it could be worse in some cases.

To make a long story short, Circumcisions and ear piercings are not a form mutilation, the processes have been around for 100s of years, why is this such an issue today?

Today’s topic comes from a conversation I had with an Airman today regarding another Airman lying to his Commander…

So, the story I’ve been told is; this particular Airman got pulled over/stopped by a Commander and was asked for is name and was basically told to follow proper procedures for what he was doing and to make sure he had all the proper paperwork in order…well….

Turns out the Commander who stopped his Airman was actually his Commander and the Airman lied and told the Commander a fake name. The commander took the Airman’s license plate number without the Airman knowing so he could have Security Forces run the information to make sure everything was in order. Long story short, when the Commander contracted SF to run the plate number, it showed the persons REAL name and squadron…so now the Commander knows his own Airman lied to him for no reason…

So, my thoughts;

First of all, why…from what I understand the Airman had nothing on his record other than maybe not the having the proper paperwork, so why lie to YOUR Commander?

Second, Did you not think the Commander was going to find out? I get maybe he didn’t know that the Commander took his plate number but come on, Im sure he would have recognized you at work at some point.

It makes me wonder sometimes how some of these Airman even got past BMT or Tech school. Isn’t it integrity first? It sure doesn’t seem that way. Sometimes, the actions of these Airman’s, NCO’s and SNCO’s make me ashamed to be associated with the Air Force..It shouldn’t be that way.

Ever been in a situation where you want to say something to someone but cant because you don’t want to make your spouse look bad? That’s literally me ALL THE TIME. I tend to speak before I think and I’m so terrified that doing so will get my husband in trouble lol.

So, I work on base, not going to say where, but I am the type of person who sees everyone as an individual person, I don’t see Military members for their rank, I see them for the person they are. Well, we used to have one SNCO who would come in and be SOOO rude and basically use his rank to get his way. I swear when he would come in, it would take everything in my power not to look him straight in the eye and ask who he really thinks he is…like HELLO, i’m not enlisted, your rank means nothing to me. I was however, always nice to him and had at times asked him to please settle down and that he would be helped in a timely manner…But, again, it comes down to me saying something out the way to this person and whether or not it gets back to my husbands chain of command that his wife is CRAZY.

What would you do? How would you handle this situation?

Welcome to my Blog.

First, let me start by introducing myself, my name is Heather and I am a Milspouse to my Airman. We’ve been in the Military life for almost 2 years. We have 2 dogs and a baby on the way.  Im 27, I work part time and work from home making stickers and decals as a secondary income source. I decided to make this blog to hopefully answer any questions my fellow Milspouses may have. I want to share our stories, achievements, ups, downs, and goals.

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